The sweetheart is 6’3, handsome, and the sex is AMAZING. He is taking care of his grandma who is sick, so all his finances go towards their household. And, dating is just hanging out, enjoying someone’s company, and you have companionship for movies, dinner, brunch, outings, and other social events. So, I don’t understand what choice you feel you have to make.He does try to do sweet little things, like cooking me dinner, or buying me a single rose, but I am used to being wined and dined. Why make a choice and you’re busy with work, and you won’t have time, and you’re going to cancel dates because of your busy schedule and work life? Don’t make this more difficult and feel that you have to make a choice. Girl, you folks will make things so hard and difficult when it doesn’t have to be. As I stated, dating is not being in a relationship with someone.In fact a number of women have said to me that they’re afraid of wasting time, while at the same time feeling that time is running out, so they’re trying to effectively compact, for example, what would be a years worth of dating for another person, into a couple of months. It may feel like you’re auditioning them for what you feel is the big job of being ‘The One’ but you and they are people with feelings, libidos, imaginations, and love habits that may be counterproductive to you actually getting the relationship you want – adding several people to the mix just makes it messy.But equally, keeping your options open is about being non-commital and this is the mainstay of being emotionally unavailable and creating limited experiences that keep you ‘safe’ in a self-fulfilling prophecy bubble. Feeling like you have choices may convince you that you have more choices than you have and trap you indecision!And, let's face it, I'm not used to more than one girl liking me at a time.I'm able to manage multiple friendships, because it's important to me, so maybe if relationships are important enough, I can pull it off.Over the past few weeks in particular, I’ve had quite a few readers tell me that they’re dating multiple people, something I find exhausting just thinking about it, but at the same time rather fascinating because I find that people give me all sorts of reasons for they do it: I’m just experimenting with dating. Remember how you didn’t like it when Mr Unavailable had a narcissistic harem of women he was dipping in and out of for an ego stroke? It’s where you discover the facts that will help you determine whether you should green light, date some more and potentially move into a relationship, or whether you should red light and abort the mission.
If I do, it might work out better, but I could lose them both if they don't like the arrangement or if they find out if I tried to keep it from them.
So all of my guy friends and even most of my girl friends were telling me to hang out with both women.
Essentially they advised me to "see other people."I've never been comfortable with the idea of "seeing other people."Here are pros and cons of seeing other people: Incomplete projects strewn around is a hallmark of the ADD-afflicted person's life. Considering I have trouble following through with one girl,how much trouble will I have following through and managing two different relationships?
Despite knowing I should play the field more, I haven't been able to bring myself to do it. I could tell I liked her because I got into a good mood whenever she texted/talked to me.
While I was hanging out with Pam, I went to a party and met a friend of a friend named Nicole.